Gandhi once said, “Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do, are in harmony”. While I feel this is a complete truth, I would add also how you feel – because feelings are not connected to your mind, your speech or activity. Feeling comes from the heart. And I would say that when we are in alignment with our heart, this is when we are truly in our power – our true selves – living in authenticity to the person we really are. The person we came here to be. Once we come back to thinking, saying, doing and feeling from the heart, we are in alignment with our soul’s purpose on the planet in this lifetime. We are truly being ourselves with no masks, with healthy boundaries, and unapologetically true to our heart – no matter what judgments are placed upon us. Living from this place affords us the opportunity to release the need to consider what other people think of us, and come into the freedom of being completely happy with who we are and what we think of ourselves. That means leaving the negative self talk behind, finding the stories that lay beneath all of that, clearing them, and making time for our own self love. In this, we begin to understand that before we can truly and fully give our love to another, we must love ourselves unconditionally first.
Being true to our hearts is taking back our power to live the life we want to live even if that doesn’t conform to what society, your parents, or your friends think it should be. True to our heart is having the courage to stand in your truth. The truth that has been hiding in your heart for what seems like forever that seems too scary to face. Our heart never ever lies. It carries the wisdom of all of the lifetimes we have ever lived. And I’ll tell you something: It’s not going anywhere so you might as well listen to it. It will continue to nag at you, remind you, and persist and persist. And you will live with that every day until you listen to it – until you follow it. That is what causes people on their deathbed to say, “I wish I would have….”. You only get one chance in this life. Do what you wish you could do – do what is in your heart – because you are alive and you can. What is it going to take to make it happen? Who cares what other people think. This is not about how many friends you have or who likes you or doesn’t. This is not about acceptance. This is about being you – truly and unapologetically you, and being friends with that person. Standing in your truth takes guts, courage, bravery and stamina to stay the course when things appear to be not working out the way you had hoped, or when things appear to be completely falling apart in your life. Remember in order to create we must first destroy.
You might end up lonely, because you discovered the friends you thought you had didn’t support your decisions, and it was time to move on and find your tribe. But the lone wolf walks it’s own path – walks to the beat of it’s own drum because it is confident in its purpose. A lone wolf has not settled for something less. The lone wolf has listened to it’s calling, left behind it’s old life, and walks in freedom, truth and authenticity….. alone, as it finds it’s own way back to a new life.
This means likely, that you have been rejected and judged by your friends and/or family. We have been programmed by society to seek permission from others and to not trust ourselves. The only way we trust ourselves is by getting confirmation from someone else that we are good enough, or that what we are doing is right. What happens then, is that instead of acting on our dreams and what fills our heart, we get paralyzed with fear that if we do this, we will not be accepted. This is because of one of two things: firstly, we likely have not communicated our dreams to others for fear that they will think we are crazy and thus not provide us the confirmation we seek, or secondly, we have communicated our dreams and they have been squashed by the judgment of others. In both situations we have lost and given our power away to someone else.
Why have we come to depend so heavily on what other people think of us? Why do we rule our lives on the opinions of others or pleasing others? Why is it so hard for us to trust our intuition and our hearts – trust ourselves?
We have been taught this. It is not our natural way of being. It’s more comfortable and easier to blend in than it is to stand out of the crowd. To challenge the status quo and to go against what those around us think we should do. The masculine “getting things done” side of things has overruled the feminine way of knowing. The masculine and feminine energies are out of balance. We need to bring the balance of these two energies into focus so that we can go forward with our hearts, trust ourselves again and use our intuition for our greatest benefit and get things done from a different perspective. We, as a society, need to start treating our children as their own people – as unique individuals, and give them the freedom to express themselves and to dream. To dream big. To stop telling them that is just their imagination or that what they see or say is funny, ridiculous, or not real. We need to open our minds to their creativity, the intuition they naturally follow, and to the fact that they don’t filter, and stop teaching them to filter their gifts. When we filter, we conform. When we filter we are allowing ourselves to be formed on the acceptance and permission of others. We need to stop projecting our version of success upon them, and allow them to form their own version. They came here with a purpose as well, just as we did. And it is most clear to them before the age of seven. Let’s stop clouding their purpose. It begins with children. Supporting them to be exactly who they are and not to change because other people, including us, think they should. To embrace their wildness, their creativity and their child like wonder, and to encourage it and support them in their individuality. To allow them to learn the way they learn, not force them all to learn in the same way, and set them up for success, not for failure. It’s about individuation not conformity.
So as adults, who have lived through conformity, we need to able to unlearn these things. To un-teach ourselves what has been engrained in us. And that is not an easy path to follow. Your brain has developed neural pathways, entrenched in your DNA, that in order to change, you need deep commitment. You need consistency, patience, and space to accept and embrace new belief systems as the pathway to the real you. It is a process for sure, but one worth taking on as the path to your freedom and true happiness. This doesn’t happen over-night, so don’t expect things to change in that kind of time. Commit to it and know that it takes the time it takes and that it won’t happen by itself. Put the effort in and the Universe will help you along the way, but the Universe knows no time. Embrace that.
Walking your own path takes an enormous amount of courage and I’m not going to lie – it’s a lot of work! You don’t have a map and there isn’t a guide with you showing you the way through the woods to get to the other side. It is all up to you to trust your inner guidance system, to have faith that what you’re doing is right. To chose to trust yourself, your intuition and your path because it is yours and only yours. To clear your limiting beliefs so that you can create the reality you want. The words you speak, the actions you take and the beliefs you have, consciously or subconsciously, create your reality. Words are spells. Thoughts are energy. They both influence your reality. There are no instructions – but if you trust yourself and be true to you – it’s impossible to mess it up. The Universe begins to conspire with you – and everything changes.
And because you have taken your life into your own hands and trusted yourself there will be no one to blame. Instead of living someone else’s life and working for someone else – you become the boss – the creator of your life with unlimited possibilities. No one is responsible for you but you. In this there is freedom but also great responsibility for our own lives and decisions. So find people like you. This is not a time in history to go this alone. The age of the lone wolf is over. The separation is over. The times of doing this alone are finished and it’s time to unite with those on the same path. Find the brave souls – your soul group – your tribe. Surround yourself with people that support you and nourish your dreams. 2020 is about oneness – coming together for a common goal. So find your people.
Finding your tribe – there is power there. Thinking you can do this alone is just a bad idea – so scrap it. Be the lone wolf that seeks to find its pack. You need support – others with the same interests as you, they get you, and are willing to hold space for you to share what’s really going on in your life. Share your goals and dreams with them so that they can be there to support you in fulfilling them. They are like your cheerleading squad and you are theirs. So you need to be prepared to hold space for others as well – to witness them – to challenge them and to support them in their journey – or to just be there to listen. This is a powerful group of people and together you all can push each other to achieve things you never thought possible – things you had no idea how you were going to accomplish. Unlock your support. Don’t be stuck in trying to do this yourself. Make your dreams heard as vibrations of energy out into the world. Let the Universe hear your desires. By speaking them, you give them the power to manifest. You send ripples out into the world that touch and change everything around you. There is healing in telling and sharing your story and in making your dreams known out in the world.
Open your heart to receive.
Ask your heart. When you need advice or need to make an important decision – ask your heart. If you are searching for your purpose in life – ask your heart. Get quiet, be still, clear your mind and listen. Follow the breadcrumbs of energy that are leading you on your way. Follow where the energy takes you. Allow the Universe to guide you on your journey. Stop doing things to please others, or doing things because it’s what you think you should do. Create strong boundaries.
The mind is a wonderful and powerful tool – but it’s just a tool. The heart is wise beyond your years. It carries the wisdom of all of your lifetimes and your soul’s truth. Your soul’s purpose – the reason you came here in this lifetime – and the lessons you are here to learn. The heart is the bridge between the mind and the soul. It bridges the gap between black and white and allows us to realize that in the grey area – in the unknown – anything is possible – there is pure potentiality. It understands that we are powerful creators, knows that we are powerful beyond measure, and has that deep knowing that we truly do create our own realities. Be open to magic and miracles, to fairy tale endings, and to big dreams. Be open to receiving and to believing that absolutely anything is possible. Against all odds anything is possible. Don’t close yourself off by your limiting thoughts and beliefs. Clear those. Be open. Chose something different.
When we get to the point of living our purpose – the Universe will arrange everything we need to achieve our dreams. It’s what you are here to do. The Universe is friendly and only wants to give you what your soul needs to evolve. That is why you are here – to evolve. You have come here to learn something that your soul wanted to learn. Find that. Peel away the layers that are hiding that from you. Your soul holds fears, blocks, and limiting beliefs that come from traumatic experiences in your life, from the past lives you have lived, or from Akashic loops that are running within your family line and do not even belong to you. The key is to clear these out of your system for good so that you can create new belief systems that support you in the now. The best way I have found to do this is through the Akashic Records, Soul Retrieval, Past Life Regression, BodyTalk and Pranic Energy healing sessions.
Your soul’s purpose is not a secret, and often it lies right in front of us – yet we cannot see it. What are you passionate about? Who do you admire? What inspires you? What could you spend hours doing and lose your self in it? If you absolutely believed that the Universe is conspiring and arranging for you to succeed, what would your decision be? What would you do if money weren’t a concern? What light’s your fire? What do all these things have in common? These are the keys to your soul’s purpose. It’s really that simple. But in order to see the answers to these questions as true possibilities, we need to see beyond the veil – beyond the mask we put up for the world. We need to find our limiting belief systems and clear them out to make way for a new version of ourselves – of our reality – in order to have the courage to step into our soul’s purpose.
We have everything we need inside of us. We just need to learn to live from love not fear. From the heart and not the mind. Real love – unconditional love. Not the kind of love that society is built on these days – love with conditions and rules. Sounds simple right? I’ll be the first one to tell you it’s not going to be an easy road. But, the good news is – you’re worth it and it will all be worth it to live the life you have always imagined. Have you ever said to yourself, “There must be more to life than this?” You have come here for a reason with a Divine purpose in this lifetime. And you chose to be here during this time. The time is now. Find it. Stop settling. You might lose friends, your family might think you are crazy, but you aren’t here to be who everyone else thinks you should be. You are here to be who you came here to be. The one and only – YOU! Walk your path not someone else’s.